Why?

Why do people say hurtful things to others? I love the old saying "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." Today someone said something very hurtful to me. She told me that if I look down on people enough to want to help them then I should sell all my possessions and join the Peace Corps. Maybe she was trying to be helpful, but I have never met anyone that finds hurtful things helpful. Yes I want to help others, anyone who knows me knows I have a passion or service and humanitarian work. I love helping others, but I do not do it because I look down on them or think I am better then them, I do it because I love others. I do it because I look to Christ as my example and see that He spent His life is service to others, and He did it because He loves us.

As much as I would love to travel the world and dedicate my life to service through the Peace Corps or as a Missionary, right now that just isn't an option. I have children to raise, and they need me. I can help from here. I don't have a lot, but I can still give service, I can still love. When we have a little extra we try to figure out where there is the greatest need and give of what we have.

Next time you have something to say ask yourself; is it helpful? Is it needful? Is it kind? Is it non-judgmental? If it isn't kind, if it could hurt, don't say it. People respond much better to love then they do to harshness.